Theses
這個部落格主要討論三個婚姻概念之間的關係:
(a) 限定異性單偶(一男一女)的婚姻、
(b) 限定單偶(不限性別)的婚姻、以及
(c) 多偶(不限性別)婚姻。
我主張：
1. (a)、(b)、(c)存在實質上的差異。
因此，例如當(單偶)同性婚姻從於法無據到受到法律保障，法律從只認可(a)到認可(b)，這當中的轉變是不同婚姻概念的替換。
2. 要找到一個能夠同時支持(b)又排除(c)的理由是很困難的。(我將一一檢視人們宣稱可以達到這個目標的理由。)
3. 在找不到一個可以同時支持(b)又排除(c)的理由的情況下，我們只有以下幾種選擇：
(1) 放棄以(b)取代(a)的改變。
(2) 支持(b)的同時也放棄排除(c)，亦即接受多偶婚姻。但至此，我們要問:法律層面的婚姻概念還剩下什麼實質內涵？
(3) 重新思考民事婚姻(civil marriage)的意義。或許民事婚姻沒有我們以為的那麼特別與重要？
我目前的主張傾向於(2)，只有(2)這個選項才得以讓我們宣稱「婚姻是建立在愛或平等上的基礎上的」，但一個真正擁抱愛或平等的婚姻概念，卻很可能是一個跟法律脫鉤的婚姻概念。除非你跟我一樣，樂見婚姻與國家權力脫鉤，否則就必須認真考慮(1)與(3)兩個選項。在這個「同性婚姻合法」在全球各地引起討論的風頭上，我希望論證，(1)與(3)是值得我們認真考慮的兩個選項。
Hi!
ReplyDeleteCurious as to what you got interested in the subject, and if you are in a polyamorous relationship yourself.
I'm not in a polyamorous relationship. Polyamory, like monogamy, is not a lifestyle for everyone. But I do encourage people to think outside of the box. There are lessons we can all learn from the polyamorous.
DeleteI got interested in the concept "marriage" simply because I was puzzled by what people said about it.
are you implying that polyamory is not for you? or have you just not found the right people to experiment it with?
ReplyDeleteit'd be interesting to learn more from someone who's been in a polyamorous relationship before.
Your question seems based on a groundless assumption that polyamory (or other kinds of lifestyle) can work for me, that what I need is to find the right partners. Think about it: What if you say to someone who chooses a heterosexual lifestyle that s/he just hasn't found the right same-sex partner? The question seems to assume that the reason for one's being heterosexual is that one hasn't found the right same-sex partner. I suppose we all know that it is not the case.
DeleteThere are many websites with information about the polyamorous communities out there. This blog is just not one of them. The theme of this blog is the concept of marriage. I bring up the case of polygamy in order to challenge the thought that the concept of "same-sex marriage" is simply the same as that of "opposite-sex marriage." Marriage is a concept with more substantial content.
I did not assume anything, hence my clarifying questions :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with your points you have put forth on the blog, and am simply trying to connect with people who may have actually practiced polyamory.